FINDING COMPASSION IN CLOSURE

I am predictably typical. The proof rests in the fact that most of my life experiences have found a haven of simplicity.

My Buddhist friends have said that I successfully recognize that endings are a natural part of life, and that it is okay to feel closure. They believe that conclusions with relationships and accomplishments are not necessarily about grand, definitive statements, but a process of acknowledging and managing the emotions associated with the lessons learned. Compassion is the critical component.

With their assessment, I trust that occurrences in life are not permanent. More accurately, each becomes a powerful tool to navigate failed relationship endings. Like most things, closures have natural cycles of arising, then fading away. To realize that every life happening will end alleviates the suffering of a perceived period of disappointment.

Whenever I separate myself from the difficulties of life, I internally advocate for the acceptance of the reality for closure and the emotions that come with it. In doing so, I let go of historical associations, desires, and the need for control. I am not talking about suppressing feelings about people or issues, but rather dealing with them, and moving forward. Holding on to anger or resentment towards myself or any other person only impedes my approach to closure. Forgiveness is not about condoning harmful actions, but releasing the emotional burdens they impose. In many ways, endings, regardless of their form, often mutate into opportunities for growth.

True closure come from within. It is a conscious and mindful process of embracing life’s conclusions. It is the letting go of life’s trappings.

Finality doesn’t always come from a conversation or an understanding with another party. Sometimes it is about the internal work of accepting the reality of the situation, even if the desired result is not achieved gracefully.